Be AWAKE; rather than be RIGHT!
Be AWARE; rather than be RIGHT!
ACCEPTANCE; rather than be RIGHT!
Wouldn’t it be great to live the rest of your life; Awake, Aware, and with Acceptance; rather than having to be RIGHT! Being RIGHT never proves to be helpful. But for some reason, I always want to be RIGHT.
Having to be RIGHT actually causes our body physical harm. But it’s just such a hard habit to break.
I’m not suggesting that you be WRONG. I’m suggesting that the majority of the battles we get ourselves into every day are a result of us having to be RIGHT. It’s time to let everyone else to be RIGHT.
Are My Emotions Connected to Being Right?
I’ve spent way too many hours trying to prove I am right, that I have lost all awareness of what’s really important. It seems like it’s a constant battle of inner turmoil. Having to be right affects the wellness of our physical body. For instance, I get constipated when I enter the “I’M RIGHT” battle because our emotions are connected to our digestive system. (Ever get butterflies in your stomach when you’re really nervous? Same thing!) I tend to “hold in” my real feelings. Being RIGHT isn’t worth being constipated.
What is Acceptance?
Acceptance is letting the other person be RIGHT, even if they aren’t. I said it would be hard. You see, they are RIGHT in their mind. What matters is that you let them believe whatever they choose to believe. Trust me. It’s not worth the battle and you won’t convince them you are right. So stop trying. This is true acceptance of others.
It REALLY does not matter.
Is there a Difference Between Your Conscious and Your Conscience?
Confused? This will help you. Let’s look at a simple definition of conscious and conscience.
Definition of Conscious: being aware of yourself and the world around you.
If I can become aware of someone or something that is around me, I am conscious, or awake. When I begin to realize that other people don’t exist to intentionally annoy me, or bother me, or burden me with their problems, my mind begins to AWAKEN with a different perspective. I have a choice to accept them as they are or continue to try to change them. Bottom line, the only person that will change them is them. So the question is is it worth your health to be RIGHT?
Definition of Conscience: having a moral understanding, an inner feeling of right and wrong.
What I do is try to project what I believe to be right onto other people because I believe everyone else’s behavior is wrong. Afterall, they aren’t doing what I learned was right. When people act differently than I think they should because of my right and wrong beliefs, it bothers me. If I am around them for an extended period of time, I become embarrassed by their behavior, think they are dumb for behaving that way and have an arrogance about how much better I am then they are. This is ugly.
A Good Example: I can’t stand it when people chew loudly. Crunchy loudly is the worst! And if they eat super fast and slump in their chair while they eat and don’t bring the food up to their mouth but take their mouth down to their food, I cringe all over. It makes me seriously crazy. I glare at the person in unbelief as I sit nice and tall and chew my food slowly and quietly. I am such a good girl and the way I chew and sit is RIGHT!
WHAT’S THE SOLUTION?
Now that I am starting to become AWARE of how I no longer want to be RIGHT, I am asking myself: Who was the man who decided the RIGHT way to eat and sit? Who is the person who decided any of the behaviors I deem as being wrong is wrong? Who wrote the EATING BIBLE?
I WAS NOT CONSCIOUS OF HOW MY CONSCIENCE BECAME WHO I AM!
When I was a child, I learned what right and wrong are from my Mother. That fact is not to blame her, it’s just the facts. It’s bound to happen because as a child, I naturally absorbed her belief system. Her conscience became my conscience.
I was not aware that whatever my Mother thought was RIGHT would become what I believed was right. Her belief of right and wrong or good and bad became my belief. My Mother would be very critical when anyone would chew loudly, or if they did not sit up very straight while they ate, or if they didn’t bring their fork up to their mouth, or if they ate fast.
I followed her definition of RIGHT because I was a little child modeling my Mother’s behavior. A child doesn’t have a choice. Her example became my conscience or my right and wrong.
CHILDREN FALL FROM THE TREE!
My father chewed loudly, ate fast and slumped in his chair when he ate. I remember how my Mother ridiculed and glared at him during meals. He was wrong and she was RIGHT. Can you guess what behavior I have modeled for a long time? How sick is that?
My husband got into the car today chomping down on an apple! I admit, I failed the glare test but I managed not to say anything. He enjoyed his apple. I have a hole in my lip! I asked myself this question: Why isn’t it Okay for him to eat that stupid apple the way he wants to eat it! Who suffered? He was nourished by an organic apple. I have an upset stomach and a hole in my lip!
Awareness must come first before you can Awaken to Acceptance.
Let me know if you’re committing to Acceptance. It’s much harder than anything you’ll ever do. Much harder.