Joanie tells me to write, write, and write some more. At first, I didn’t know where to start. Just like my morning prayers, I just wasn’t sure where to start. Then I realized that I needed to start where I am. If you are having trouble knowing where to start, then start simply like I did; by thanking and praising God for all the good things He is doing in your life.
BEING THANKFUL. I thank God for another day that continues to bring hope for my family situation. I thank Him for being the One in control while my emotions are all torn up. I thank Him for holding things together while all the messy stuff is going on and it doesn’t seem like it is being worked out. I thanked him for my husband who loves me despite my own ugliness and confusion during this emotional time because he has his own emotions to deal with.
I thank God for friends and family support and encouragement. I praise Him for His infinite wisdom and love to me and my family. I praise Him for sending His Son, Jesus Christ, to die for the sins of All mankind so that they may know Him and have eternal life once this life here on earth is over.
Being thankful brings hope.The key to everything here is to have an attitude of gratitude. To focus on what is good and right instead of the sad and negative. This isn’t an easy task, at least not for me, especially when you’re in the thick of it and you feel like you’re sinking in quicksand. The more you move and struggle to fix it or get out, the faster you sink.
Take a deep breath and try to go some place peaceful. Perhaps a park, a secluded safe spot where you can be alone. Take the time to slow down just a bit, for our own health and well-being. But how do we do this, especially if we have young children still at home, or work outside the home, other commitments, etc. How do we slow down long enough to think and still remain proactive in our situations? Maybe we need to take into account that we aren’t the ones responsible to fix everyone and everything. How proactive are we to be? What is our part in it all?
This is where I am at this moment, learning what my part is, what it should not be, and how to not be so consumed by my situation. To retrain my own brain and its normal way of wanting to think and respond is definitely not easy. How do I remain spiritually, emotionally and physically “healthy”? They all go hand in hand. If one is seriously out of whack, then eventually the others go under attack as well.
STAY CONNECTED. For me, I need to stay connected to my Creator. I need to pray, read His Word and cling to his every promise. This helps me with keeping my emotions balanced while trying to get on the right track. But I also turn to a couple of dear friends for that tireless shoulder to cry on and an open ear to just listen when I need to vent. There are support groups I am checking out. Not too sure about these yet, but am giving them a try.
WHAT ARE YOU EATING? And we can’t forget about how important our diet and exercise is during these times. It seems this is the first one to go down the drain for me but I have learned that my physical needs are just as important as my spiritual and emotional needs. I can be so upset that my body doesn’t want to eat and I take “shortcuts” when I do eat. Or I may be so consumed in my thoughts or trying to learn what I can that I forget about eating.
Staying hydrated is so important too so drink lots of purified water and eat life-giving healthy foods even in small portions if necessary. (Joanie is a great resource for healthy suggestions and recipes!) And make sure to get in some form of exercise like yoga or even taking your dog for a long walk. The fresh air and walk are probably overdue for both of you (as it was in my case). Maybe go to lunch with a friend and try to not talk about your situation, if possible. And oh my gosh…rest. Try to rest and get a decent amount of sleep. Just make sure you get up from under those covers. The world needs you.
Answers don’t always come quickly and our lives don’t necessarily change for the better in a blink when we want it to, but remember to try to reprogram your thinking into an attitude of gratitude. Our lives depend on all of this.
WHAT ABOUT YOU MY FRIEND? There is so much more I am feeling but please share how you are doing with us here at The Good FIG Basket. Let us know what does or doesn’t work for you. We are all Friends in this life together. Stay as strong as possible and don’t give up hope because in our next blink it can all change for the better! I am believing that and I am also very much looking forward to it.
Lamentations 3:21-22 Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope: Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail.