“The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently.”
If you have shopped anywhere, had your oil changed, or eaten at a restaurant recently, you’ve probably been asked the question:
“How are we doing?”
Businesses want happy customers. They know pleased customers will return and if you are happy, you will tell a friend or two about your experience. On the other hand, if you are an unhappy customer, you will tell anyone who will listen how dissatisfied you are. It seems dissatisfaction is spread around more often than satisfaction.
How does this apply to our personal lives? How am I really doing? Although I usually have the typical “I’m fine” response, I am trying to pay closer attention to how I am really doing.
I am currently reading “At Home in this Life” by Jerusalem Jackson Greer. She tells about putting her house on the market and how hard it was to see the comments prospective buyers made about the condition of her home. She decided not to read them.
When she and her family ended up staying in the house, she realized that the comments had been providing valuable information that she could have used to improve her home. She got to work on getting her place in shape.
That made me think about comments I have heard about the way I do things. I could choose to ignore those remarks or use that information to move in a constructive, positive direction.
Here’s what I suggest:
- In your journal, write down exactly what they said about you.
- Do you trust them?
- What did they point out and why?
- Was this an isolated incident, or has someone else said the exact same things?
While self-examination can be painful at times, it will prevent greater pain somewhere else down your life’s journey. I promise.
How do you react to negative comments you hear people say about you? I’d love to hear from you! I could use all the help I can get.
Looking forward to self-respect and improvement,