At some time in your life, you may have wished you were the ideal woman. Maybe you are still striving to be much more ideal than you currently are. I want to spare you a lot of mental anguish and tell you that the ideal woman exists only in the imagination of an ideal man. If any of you have found the latter of those two people, you may delete this blog post and go live your perfect life. However, if you have failed miserably in the impossible mental venture to be ideal like I have, you may want to continue reading. You see, I stopped trying to be the ideal woman and switched instead to an “ideal ideas woman”.
WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE?
I ask my dear friend Siri to tell me what “ideal” and “idea” meant:
- IDEAL – a person or thing that is perfect.
- IDEA – A thought or suggestion as to the best possible course of action.
According to Siri’s definition, who by the way has talked me through numerous occasions when I was lost in life and needed to find my way, I’m definitely not ideal but I definitely am filled with perfect ideas, well at least I think so. Therefore, that makes me an ideal ideas woman or IIW for short.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE AN IIW?
If you are an IIW, you are constantly coming up with excellent thoughts regarding the best possible course of action not only for yourself but for everyone else in your life! Even while you are sleeping, your mind is constantly searching for ideal ideas. I always wake up with a list of ideal ideas ready to implement them as soon as my feet hit the floor. This morning for instance, I woke up with the solution to how to quilt a quilt I am working on, how to block a large doorway so my granddog cannot jump on my couch, the perfect sentiment to text to a dear friend whose father is dying, and a long list of ideal ideas for my retired husband!
BUT WAIT! THERE LIES THE FIRST BIG PROBLEM!
The big problem with being an ideal ideas woman is that if you also choose to share your ideal ideas regarding the best possible course of action OTHERS should take, you more than likely will find yourself veering into someone else’s lane. This is not ideal.
THE SECOND BIG PROBLEM!
IIW’s also may EXPECT the entire population, including your husband and kids to be just as excited about your ideal ideas as you are about telling them what to do. You also expect them to carry out your advice. And you EXPECT them to appreciate how absolutely profound and wonderful you are!
I’LL SHARE A SECRET WITH YOU!
Your ideas are indeed ideal and I totally get you BUT can I save you YEARS and YEARS of heartache, frustration and mental anguish by recommending the best possible course of action for you to take from now on?
DO NOT under any circumstances offer your ideas of how anyone else should act unless they ask you. I know that is really hard for us IIW’s because clearly, we are much smarter and wiser than the person we are talking to. But trust me, I’ve been in way too many crashes thinking I could drive other people’s life, but it is not smart or wise. You can only drive your course.
Let me know how your driving is improving once you begin to follow the best course of action for your own life.
You know I get you!