Hey My Friend, have you ever been going about life, business as usual when suddenly a life altering event occurs? Something happens and immediately you know life has just changed drastically and will never be the same again. I’m sure most of us have. I am going through one at this very moment and it is very hard.
These events could be from a sudden announcement of your partner stating they are having an affair. Or maybe they want a divorce and you had no clue they were unhappy. Maybe it is from death of a loved one. Whether it was from a long term illness, a personal health diagnosis, or a sudden accident, it doesn’t matter, it is all life altering. Maybe someone you love committed suicide, or attempted suicide, or is a drug addict. Maybe they announced they were gay or have been prostituting themselves for whatever reason and you just found out. There are so many more reasons why our world becomes flipped upside down. Not one less important than the other because what affects you is no less important than what affects me. The pain is all the same.
So the big question is, “What do we do to get through this? How do we pick up the broken pieces and put them back together?”
In my search for sanity among all that is going on in my life at the moment, I am learning that I have no power of my own to “fix” anything or anyone, but I know the Source that does. I am referring to the God Almighty who created this earth and knows every detail about every situation, seen or unseen. This is my comfort. I don’t know where you stand in your view of God and I promise I will not condemn or judge you for what you believe. I ask that you don’t judge me either. I am simply stating what I know to be true in my own life.
Let me give a simple analogy in one of the ways I see life at the moment.
Life is like a puzzle, the kind with tons of pieces. Putting life together piece by piece can sometimes be easy. Other times it is challenging and even downright daunting. When I begin a puzzle, I usually put the border together first. The border represents boundaries that I must set for myself in order to remain sane. Then I set about the task of filling it all in.
Now this is where I compare life to a puzzle. Putting this puzzle together is when your life is going along fairly smoothly with maybe only a few bumps and hitches or maybe not even hardly any at all. Suddenly you come to a juncture where none of the pieces fit and it is then that you realize that you’ve been thrown a curve ball. You are looking at all the angles and clues to find the right piece and none are working. Nothing seems to fit together.
How do you respond? Do you get frustrated and angry? Do you have the mindset of giving up? Do you even go as far as destroying the whole thing and walking away for good? Believe me when I say I know all emotions can be validated for a certain amount of time. But soon you realize even that isn’t fitting.
Sometimes temporarily walking away from the puzzle can bring relief from negative responses. The key word here is temporarily. Removing ourselves in some way can help us gain new positive insights. It can help us to renew our strength to carry on and move on.
What about those who step in and help us put our puzzle together? It is okay to let them. They can be most valuable. They can see from a perspective we are not able to see at the moment. Observing and learning from others’ lives can be quite fruitful. I believe that is why God gives us one to another. Another source of comfort to us.
So these are just a few thoughts I wanted to share with all my friends whose life may have been thrown a unexpected curve ball. The key for me to remember is who the Master Creator of my life’s puzzle is. Regardless if I do not understand the reasons why, I am believing He is creating a beautiful masterpiece in our lives.
Not all of the pieces we pick up for ourselves are going to fit properly and that is okay. Some aren’t meant to be there at all. I am going to try to sit and be patient and allow Him to put the right pieces in place. This never is easy for me to do. Life has become difficult but I am thankful for the comfort that I feel knowing God is putting my puzzle together for me. I am learning much and trusting that His work and the final masterpiece will be far better than anything I could ever create.
How about you my friend? Do you want to share your story with us? We’d love to hear from you. I just want to encourage you to keep walking forward one step at a time.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.