Knowing that conflict is inevitable in my life, my focus is to learn how to not let other people’s drama cause or become my own conflict.
It’s when my energy levels are being zapped or when I feel life is being sucked right out of me that I must evaluate the situation. If I feel I am being manipulated or becoming stressed then I must learn how to disengage in order to preserve a healthy balance in my own life.
Because conflict and drama with others can happen to any of us, we must learn to ask ourselves tough questions like: “Is this person’s drama bringing me stress? And if so, Why?”
If you’re a ‘fixer’ like me we can become very disappointed and upset when what we offer doesn’t change the other person’s situation. Sometimes we become upset to the point where we aren’t sleeping or eating well. This lifestyle is unhealthy and can cause a myriad of health problems for us.
When we discover that we don’t have the ability to fix other people in how they deal with conflict, we unload a heavy burden from ourselves. Just that release of stress alone can be the first step towards total healing.
As hard as it can be we must allow them to make their own choices, make their own mistakes and deal with their own consequences. We are only responsible for our own choices, just as they are responsible for theirs.
I also believe it is good for others to witness us making healthy decisions for ourselves as it reflects both positive actions and benefits to our own life.
Our goal should always be to look for healthy lifestyle choices for our spirit, mind, and body. Making healthy decisions for ourselves and avoiding someone else’s drama is simply only one way.
Life is constantly changing and we must continue to change and grow along with it by making healthier lifestyle decisions.
Your non-drama Queen,